Do not settle for less. If you are in a secret relationship then by all means please get out of it. No one should ever settle for a man who does not have the balls to show the world he loves you. You must never allow yourself to be treated less than what you deserve. When we enter into a relationship we give all that we have in hope that this is the one. We love for all that we are, for all that we can and for everything that there is. We silently whisper a prayer each night before we go to bed that one day this man will be the one whom we will spend the rest of our life with. We secretly wish that this relationship will last for as long as we know how to love and the fire in our heart never ceases to burn. But what if the man you chose to love does not even want to show the world he’s holding your hand?
Why would a guy not ever be proud of you? There is no reason to be ashamed of a love that is real. If your man puts your relationship in a secret, then without a doubt everything is so wrong with it. Do not be with a man who is afraid of commitment, or maybe afraid to lose his other options should he be tagged ‘taken’, much worse this man might already be in a relationship. Whatever the answer is to that question let this sink in the wholeness of your soul – do not allow yourself to be with a man who is afraid to show the world he loves you, otherwise it is never love. Do not waste your time with a guy who does not want to commit, who takes advantage of your vulnerability because you are always there when he wants you to be. Do not stay out there waiting in vain hoping one day he will make you his priority. Never miss your chance with a much better person who will give you the kind of love you deserve. Do not wait for this man to love you as much as you love him, or ever call you his girlfriend, if he cannot do it now bitter truth is he must have never felt the same.
So bravely walk away. Hold your head up high and be the person that you are – be strong and love yourself more. Love yourself more so you will be capable of loving others more thus making you worthy of a bigger much stronger kind of love we all deserve. Let your energy and time be spent with someone who is proud to show the world he loves you. Love the man who will love you back and not be afraid to hold your hand for everyone to see. No secrets, no pretensions, no ifs and no buts.
Some 19 years ago, people said we’ll never make it… that we won’t last for long. Others didn’t even believe in the kind of love we have. It was exactly the reason why Shania Twain’s “You’re Still the One” became the theme song of our love story. Ours isn’t different with the others. We had ups and downs, we had our own fair share of highlights and challenges. It was a roller coaster ride indeed, but the kind which you never want to get off, because with every turn, twist and loop, the more we appreciate that ‘two is better than one’.
You are a wonderful husband and a good father to our kids. I couldn’t agree more when my friends tell me I am lucky to have you as my partner, husband and bestfriend. I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not. To live within the warmth of your heart and call it home.
It’s been ten years since we vowed “to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”. I vow to keep updating our vows as we go, because one set of vows can’t cover a lifetime of growing with you, raising children with you and falling more and more inlove with you every day, which is what I vow to do for the rest of my life. Thank you for the wonderful ten years of marriage.
Always remember this… If I had to choose again, I’d still choose YOU!