I think it’s every mom’s dream to be able to spend as much time with her children as she can while still keeping her job. I spent so many years of my life working in Makati, renting a place there and only getting to see my kids on weekends when I come home to Laguna, where we live.
I couldn’t emphasize more the importance of women helping their spouses in earning for the family. The cost of living increases each year. Basic commodities, bills, education, food and insurance take a big chunk in the income of the family. During the old times until early 90’s it was very rare to find a family where both the husband and wife work. It was a normal set up for Filipino families to have the father as the sole breadwinner. As a matter of fact some men do not allow their wives to work, for reasons (ego?)… Well I don’t know.
I remember when I was in grade school we used to spend our summers in Baguio. My dad used to work in Ambuklao Dam and every summer he brought the whole family in their little cottage near work and we would spend at least a month there.
It was more than 20 years since the last time I step foot in the summer capital of the Philippines. So a few of weeks ago, I decided to plan to go back there since my husband and kids had never been there yet and I thought I would love to celebrate my birthday there. Being a mom who always wanted everything taken cared of I made sure to plan our itinerary and one on our list was the Dinosaurs Island.
Raise your words and not your voice.
Have you ever had a time when your son or daughter broke a plate or glass and you told them “Why can’t you hold it right it’s simple as…”
or when your daughter spilled her chocolate drink in her school uniform you told her “You never listen to me, don’t you ever drink that again!”
or your son lost his pencil AGAIN at school and you said “I’m not buying you a pencil ever again!”
Yes, I did this too.
I myself am a self-confessed ‘gastodora’. I had gone through a lot to finally understand the importance of saving for the future. Sabi nga nila – “Kapag may isinuksok, may madudukot.” My husband and I had been through difficult financial situations before finally realizing we had to control our finances. Because at the end of the day, no matter how many friends you have, believe me, not every one of them will be there for you when the dark days come. Or they may be there for you, but can’t actually help you because they themselves were broke financially.