I’ll be very blunt here… you have been warned.
You have to accept the fact that some chapters in our lives have to close without closure. There’s no point in trying to fix something that’s meant to be broken. Or it may not be broken anymore, it just… changed. And you have to accept the fact that whatever that happy ending is, it doesn’t have to be being in a relationship or that person in particular, but some happy ending just have to be you, you alone. Or simply, happy ending is just moving on. Stand back up, dust yourself off, pick up the pieces and move on. Don’t mix up moving on with giving up, these are two different stories. Giving up is leaving in the middle of the battle because fear got the best of you. Moving on is accepting the fact that some things cannot be, that people change. People out grow you. You move on because you have to accept that some things will never go back the way they used to be. And what’s in the past will remain in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Tanga! Yes you are. Cliché but true, but you will not get a different ending if you keep re-reading the same story. The moral of the story is no matter how hard you try, no matter how much we want it, it’s not meant to be and it will never happen again because the warmth of yesterday is now as cold as the breeze in the winter. It’s better to break your heart by moving on rather than break your heart everyday believing everything will go back to what it was before. I know it’s not easy to turn your back on someone especially if they a very special place in your heart but honestly they wouldn’t care anymore. They’ll be more than happy to open the door for you. And that f*cking hurts I know. Seeing someone go in a different path without you and you walking away from him even hurts more knowing that no matter how slow you go, they will never run after you.
You will miss the conversations. Old photos. Food you like to eat together. The hours you spend with him on the phone. The good mornings and good nights. The I LOVE YOUs. But don’t waste your time looking back at what you’ve lost. What is done is done. What is gone is gone. Closure doesn’t have to come from him. Closure is what you give yourself after all the heartbreak. Do not expect him to apologize. The only apology you need is the one you owe yourself for letting your heart break into pieces. The only conversation you need is the one with yourself. Let yourself know that you deserve better than this. And the only person you need to see again is the one you see in the mirror. Tell yourself you’ve been hurt but is still breathing, you were left behind but still standing, tell yourself you f*cked up and that’s your closure.
Once you realize that you deserve better, letting go and moving on will be your best decision ever. There are far better things ahead than what we leave behind. Just keep moving forward and don’t give a shit about what others think. The only thing that matters now is you. Decide that you no longer want to stay in the same place. Be brave enough to say goodbye. Life goes on. There are far more beautiful things that the future has in store for you if you let go of the unnecessary baggage of the past. Be bold. Travel. Do things you’ve wanted to do. Build new dreams. Make new accomplishments. Meet new friends. And always remember, the only time you should ever look back is to see how far you’ve come.
Keep moving forward. Here’s to the future! Because you’re done with the past!