I myself am a self-confessed ‘gastodora’. I had gone through a lot to finally understand the importance of saving for the future. Sabi nga nila – “Kapag may isinuksok, may madudukot.” My husband and I had been through difficult financial situations before finally realizing we had to control our finances. Because at the end of the day, no matter how many friends you have, believe me, not every one of them will be there for you when the dark days come. Or they may be there for you, but can’t actually help you because they themselves were broke financially.
You may have regretted a lot of things you did in the past but I tell you not the ones that made you happy. Do not forget the ones that made you smile. Not those moments that made you feel vibrant and ecstatic. Remember the days when you don’t feel the numb of your feet after a long day of work, but you see the beauty of the day and the night ahead. The times when you never cared about what other people would neither say, nor think because that moment alone was utterly perfect.
Do not settle for less. If you are in a secret relationship then by all means please get out of it. No one should ever settle for a man who does not have the balls to show the world he loves you. You must never allow yourself to be treated less than what you deserve. When we enter into a relationship we give all that we have in hope that this is the one. We love for all that we are, for all that we can and for everything that there is. We silently whisper a prayer each night before we go to bed that one day this man will be the one whom we will spend the rest of our life with. We secretly wish that this relationship will last for as long as we know how to love and the fire in our heart never ceases to burn. But what if the man you chose to love does not even want to show the world he’s holding your hand?
It’s been ten years since we vowed “to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”. I vow to keep updating our vows as we go, because one set of vows can’t cover a lifetime of growing with you, raising children with you and falling more and more inlove with you every day, which is what I vow to do for the rest of my life. Thank you for the wonderful ten years of marriage.